Anyone Notice I Was Gone?

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Did anyone notice I was missing in action?? It’s been awhile since I have posted and I have missed it so I have decided I am going to try and post on a regular basis again. Hope I still have a few avid followers out there. Or at least followers who will stop by once in a while to visit.

So what have I been up to in the last several months you ask? Well, a lot of the same things I was up to prior if you were a regular follower of my blog. I continue to be very active in my church and participating in the volunteers council at work. Trying to do my best to share the love of God with others.

I also have remained active in coaching. Currently I am coaching two teams in basketball. A 5&6 and a 7&8 year old team. These would be teams 11 and 12 I have coached since I first started coaching last summer. Each team is always different and always allows me to learn something new. Not only about the players on the team but also about coaching in general. I absolutely love every minute of being out there with the kids. Indoor soccer starts in a few weeks and I have decided soccer is absolutely my favorite sport to coach. I would of never guessed that before coaching because I always thought soccer was for the kids who couldn’t play any other sport. But I am always the most excited about the soccer seasons and have had the most fun with the soccer teams I have coached.

I’ve had a couple people who had read my previous post The IVF Adventure ask me the outcome of the adventure. Unfortunately it was not a successful adventure. We had two attempts which did not take. At this point I think we have decided we are just going to see what happens instead of going through another round. If it truly is in God’s plan then it will happen whether we do anything or not and if it’s not then it’s not going to be successful anyway. I am content if it only ends up being one child and I have come in contact with many children to share my love of children with through church, coaching, and other adventures. And I get to send home after an hour! :) Doesn’t mean I may not ask why more was not in the plan some day when I get the chance though.

I also posted about how I would want to run in a 5K at some point in my post titled Finding the Motivation to Work Out. Well, my wife decided she was going to make that happen. Without telling me she registered me to run in a 5K back in June. I ran in the 5K and finished it. I didn’t win but I also didn’t come in last place. My daughter was extremely excited about seeing me run in the 5K and I was happy to be able to do something she was so very excited about. I have not kept with the working out habit and have not registered in any more 5Ks but could possibly see myself running in others in the future, especially since she has expressed an interest in running a race with me.

The other big happening in life is the decision to home school my daughter. I wrote about the decision whether To Home School or Not. Several of you had shared your thoughts and comments on the subject. As it got closer to the time to make the decision it became obvious to me that home school would be best for her. Mostly because she seemed like she would be beyond what they would be teaching in kindergarten and therefore be restless which would lead to issues with behavior. So we made the decision to home school. My wife stopped working and has been a stay at home mom for the last 6 months. She and my daughter are loving every minute of it. And since we were working opposite shifts, my wife and I actually get to see each other more often now. It’s so wonderful to get off work and come home to have dinner at home with them every night! I think we are all very happy with the decision we have made.

So those are the big updates in my life over the last few months. I plan to be back on a regular basis so I hope you will stop by and say hello once in a while!

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Important Lessons to Share

Have you ever had a mentor? What was the greatest lesson you learned from him or her? – Daily Prompt

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I can’t think of a time that I have had a mentor so I am going to take another angle with this post. I am going to share the important lessons I would share if I was mentoring someone else.

Above all else I would share that the most important thing is to believe in yourself and always give it your all. If you go out and try something and find out you are not good at something, you have not failed. You have participated in a learning experience and learned about your limitations. Nobody is great at everything they attempt. We all have strengths and weaknesses and we won’t know what those are until we try. You only will fail if you say you can’t do something and refuse to try.

Another key point I would try to share would be that if you see something you think is a problem or something you don’t like, don’t just complain about it. Come up with a solution to the issue and try to rectify or correct the issue. If you just complain about it, nothing is every going to change. If you take action then the issue has the chance to be corrected or improved upon.

I would also try to impart the importance of the habit of always looking for the bright side of all situations. Sure, bad things happen to all of us. But some people have more than their fair share of bad things happening to them. I think this has a lot to do with how we look at those events. Many events in life can be good or bad, all depending on how you look at it. The ones who have more bad events also seem to me to be the ones who bring them on themselves by spending so much time worrying about the what-ifs. In any situation you can imagine the worst. But doing so will not help. It’s one thing to be prepared for the worst, it’s another to spend time thinking you know the worst is going to occur and willing it into being.

Another tactic to help with the bad times would be to focus on what you can do to help others. A spouse, children, people around you who may need your help. That’s not to say you should totally ignore yourself and your own needs. You have to make sure you meet your needs too, but people who tend to spend their time focusing on themselves are going to be less happy then those who tend to look for ways to impact those around them. Helping someone else meet one of their needs or improve their situation is going to make you feel better about yourself. Giving truly is much better than receiving.

Finally I would suggest that one needs to find something that is going to be something they can always look to have faith in that will allow them to know all is going to be fine in the end. For me that is my religion. I know that God is never going to provide more for me than I can handle. I also know he is going to provide me the strength I need in order to overcome anything that comes my way. I think it is important that each person has something they can fall back on which will never fail them and will help them through the tough times that happen in life.

What would you add to the list?

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The Family Pets

Write about anything you’d like. Somewhere in your post, include the sentence, “I heard the car door slam, and immediately looked at the clock.” – Daily Prompt

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I’ve talked a lot about my precious daughter and lovely wife. But I have yet to mention the family pets so I suppose it’s time to give them their moment of fame too.

We have three dogs and a cat. You would think the dogs run the house but that’s not always the case. When the cat gets in one of his moods he has no problem getting the dogs to do whatever it is he wants. I always pictured cats running from dogs, then I saw a real life example of just the opposite occurring.

The cat was a pet my wife and I got when we first moved in together almost 17 years ago now. He was a playful cat when he was younger. Now he is more of a sleeping cat. He hangs out mostly in our kitchen near his food, but will venture into the living room occasionally to sleep on the couch to be more comfortable. He’s not quite as interactive as he used to be. Occasionally he will come into the living room and find a dog sleeping where he wants to sleep. He will give a verbal warning and if the dog doesn’t move he has no reservations about swatting the dog with his claw. He very quickly ends up with the spot he wants.

We have one shih-tzu dog. He, like the cat, is getting up there in age. We have had him for about 12 or 13 years now. He too spends a lot of time sleeping. My wife picked the dog out as she likes the smaller dogs. I did get to pick his name, Brutus. Of course the name is in reference to the Ohio State Buckeye mascot. Go Bucks!

We also have two labs. They are very playful and full of energy! They have absolutely been great with our daughter from the very beginning. The did not necessarily like each other at first, but now they are like peas in a pod.

We got Rudi from a pet rescue adoption at a local pet store. She was abused as a pup and all the other dogs born with her did not make it. Still to this day she does not like strangers or other dogs. Any time visitors come around we have to put her up because other wise she spends the whole time shaking and barking.

The other lab, Lilly, we got from some friends at our church who were having to move and could not take her with them. My daughter took an immediate liking to Lilly and the two of them have been inseparable ever since. I fear the day that something ever happens to Lilly. It’s going to be very difficult on my daughter.

Two crazy stories about the dogs always come to mind when I think of them.

First, 6 days a week at about the same time every day, the mail comes and is delivered through the mail slot in our door. You would think that after all these years the dogs would be used to this and it would be a non-event for them. Yet every day when the mail comes all three dogs leap up from whatever they are doing and rush for the door barking as if it’s something new that is happening. It’s hillarious!

Second involves the evenings when I am home and the wife is at work. Normally the dogs don’t notice sounds like car doors and other things that might happen or go on outside. Yet each evening when the wife is not home, every little sound that sounds like it might be a car arriving the dogs are up and running toward the door expectantly. It’s as if being home alone with me is such torture on them! Everytime I hear a car door slam and immediately look at the clock while they run towards the door.

Owning pets can be a fun and educational experience. I used to think I was a cat person, until I owned a cat. I definitely know now that I am more of a dog person, specifically a lab person.

 

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Weekly Photo Challenge – Kiss

In a new post specifically created for this challenge, share a picture which means KISS to you! - Weekly Photo Challenge

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This picture to me says kiss because I am so overwhelmed with love for my daughter that I could plant thousands and thousands of kisses on her and still feel like planting many more.

People say you don’t know the true feeling of love until you have a child of your own. And I would definitely agree with that. You know ahead of time that you are going to love your child with every ounce of your heart and then more. But even that does not come anywhere close to describing the feeling.

There are times when I just feel over flowing with love for her. So much love that I just want to wrap my arms around her and hold her tight forever. To stop her from growing. To protect her from any possible harm that could ever occur. Protect her from any heart break that could ever occur.

I know we all suffer heartbreak and setbacks in our life. It’s part of what helps us to grow and become stronger. But I wish that there was some way I could prevent that from occurring for her. Some magic potion or button which I could use to let my love cover and protect her forever. Even if it meant I had to feel those growing pains, it would be well worth it to protect her from those things.

Of course I know this is not possible. She has to suffer those setbacks and heart breaks in order to learn to grow, overcome them, and become a stronger individual. So in the mean time I will just continue to let her know just how much I love her. Continue to teach her that God loves her and is always with her. And that between me, her mom, and God that regardless of any heart break or set back she faces she will be able to overcome and become bigger and stronger as a result of that.

That is what is so great about love. It can overcome all setbacks. It provides strength to all of us when we know we are on the receiving end of such a powerful emotion.

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Motivational Factors

When was the last time someone told you they were proud of you?Daily Prompt

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I’m not sure the exact time I was last told someone was proud of me. I am sure it was my wife. But as to what is was in regards too, I’m not sure.

Some people strive for recognition and praise and that is what motivates them or drives them. Others are motivated by money. Others are motivated by fame. It is important to know what motivates you and putting yourself in situations where you can receive that motivation.

I’m not one who necessarily requires positive encouragement or praise, money, or fame. Praise is nice to hear from time to time. But I don’t necessarily look for it. Money is nice to have, but I believe money can not buy happiness. I also don’t care to be famous. I hope to have a positive impact on people I come into contact with, but I don’t need fame.

For me, four things come to mind which motivate me.

First and foremost is knowing that I provide happiness, security, and well being for my wife and daughter. As a husband and father, it is my job to make sure that they are provided for and well cared for. If I am doing my job as husband and father then they are going to be provided and cared for, therefore they will be happy. When I fail to make that occur and happen, then I have failed, at least momentarily.

Second thing that drives me is knowing that I did my very best. Knowing that I have done the job or accomplished the task and done an excellent job at it provides a wonderful feeling inside. This feeling is what drives me to do the best I can at my job. If I continue to do the best job I can do, then everything else will follow. This will then tie back into the first factor that drives me, the ability to provide happiness, security, and well being for my family.

I am driven by doing my best to set the example for others who see how I handle myself. I hope that in my actions, others can see how they can better handle the same situations. I hope that my faith shines through and that people see the love of Jesus through me. My daughter is constantly watching me and how I handle life. I want to set an example for her to follow. I also believe that if people see how strong a role my faith plays in my life, they too may see how Jesus can play an important part in their life.

Finally, I am very competitive. I like to the best at whatever I do. The best father. The best husband. The best worker. I want to win at all the games I play. The only exception to this seems to be games against my daughter. I let her win occasionally, but then who doesn’t let their kid win once in a while? Even in coaching soccer at the YMCA, inside I really want to win. I try not to let that come through to the kids as the goal of the YMCA is not to be competitive but to learn the game and make sure everyone has fun. But just as the kids know the score and watch the scoreboard, I also want to win if at all possible. I really felt bad a few weeks ago when our game ended in a tie. I still let the kids know how awesome a job they did and didn’t share my disappointment with them, but inside I was disappointed.

It also reminded me of one drawback of soccer. Who wants to play a game and then end the game tied? But that’s a topic for another post some day.

So, what motivates you in your life?

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Ode to Spring

It’s Valentine’s Day, so write an ode to someone or something you love. Bonus points for poetry! – Daily Prompt

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Obviously I am a bit behind on the Daily Prompt, hence it’s not Valentine’s Day any longer. However I am still going to write on this topic so I can stay on track for the 365 topic posts.

Today I am going to write about something that I love and have on the mind a lot lately – Spring! I’m going to miss out on the bonus points though since I am not a poet.

Spring is my favorite season of the year.

Spring is the season where God reminds us that through him all things are reborn. The plants, flowers, and leaves that all died the previous fall are reborn and come out to show their beauty. Just as we, through him, can be reborn and show our beauty to the world.

Spring also is the time when the All American Past Time gets started. Baseball. Players report to their spring training homes in Florida or Arizona and start practicing and getting ready for a new season. Each and every team truly has new life and starts out tied for first place. Every team has the chance to go out and do their best to bring their fans a championship.

Spring is the season when all our warm weather friends return to grace us with their beauty. Birds come back north after spending a long winter south. Butterflies and lightning bugs start the process to be ready for those midsummer days and evenings when it’s time to enjoy their amazing beauty.

Spring is the season we can start to plan all our summer outings which we have missed since the last summer ended. Amusement parks, aquatic centers, long leisurely walks in the park, picnics, swimming pools, and cookouts. Just to name a few.

How could anyone not love spring?

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Finding the Motivation to Work Out

Tell us about something you know you should do . . . but don’t.Daily Prompt

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Something that I should do but don’t is to get up early to have time before work to go work out.

Exercising is a habit that I should really get into the habit of doing. Plus I have an urge to be able to run in a 5K. You just can’t show up one day and run a 5K with no training or build up to the event. I have a wonderful program on my phone called Couch to 5K which seems like it would be an easy way to build up to running a 5K. I have thought about just signing up for a 5K ahead of time as something to force me to get working on it. But then I am not sure that would work either.

The only time that I have on a regular basis to do it without taking time away from my daughter would be in the morning before I go to work. In the evening when I get off work I only have a couple hours with my daughter before she has to be in bed. If I took some of that time to exercise then I would be missing out on time with her each evening. And then there are the evenings when she has activities going on. My wife works evenings so I can’t go after she is in bed since she can’t be left alone.

So the best time would be in the morning. Unfortunately I am NOT a morning person. I am the type who stays in bed until the very last minute when I have to get up in order to be at work on time. Or wherever else I need to be. Especially in the winter months when it’s so warm and cozy in bed, especially now that we have a heated mattress pad.

Ideally I would get up about 6 or so to allow for time to go to the gym and then shower then come back home to shower and dress to get ready for work. I could sleep a little later if I wanted to go straight from the gym to work. The gym has showers. But then I would miss being able to hug and kiss my daughter and wife goodbye in the mornings.

So in the meantime I suppose I will just continue telling myself I am going to start the habit next week. And maybe one of these weeks it will actually take hold.

 

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