I like to believe that you should always do the right thing in life, even if the right thing has not been done towards you. Unfortunately I seem to be in the minority on this.
I recently got the opportunity to meet my grandmother from my mothers side of the family, just before she passed away. I was glad for the opportunity to meet her and also sad at the same time that I did not really get to know her. My parents decided that they were not going to associate with that side of the family. I don’t know the reason and don’t need or want to know the reason. I am sure they did exactly what they thought they had to do for the best interest of their children. I can understand that as I would do the same thing if I felt it was in the best interest of Katie.
When the obituary comes out in the paper the family has conveniently forgotten to list my mom in the obituary. Other surviving children are listed. I can totally understand they probably felt she had chosen to ignore them for all these years so they were going to chose to do the same now. But this upsets me greatly as I know it is going to hurt my moms feelings. I know she cared for her mom and was upset when she learned she had passed. And now she basically has to see the obituary for her mother which basically denies her existence.
I know a lot of this has to do with the story I don’t know. But it would seem like to me there would be no harm in mentioning my mother as being one of the deceaseds children. If only people would sometimes take time to ask what is the right thing to do and not just act based upon hurt feelings and perceived slights the world just might be a much gentler and kinder place.