Making Romance Last

You often hear people say that the longer you are married the less romantic you get. But does this necessarily have to be the case? I don’t think it has to be. I just think over time what is considered romantic changes, as does a lot of things through the different stages of life.

When you are young and first meet romance is all about sex. How often you can have it. The fact you in a new relationship is exciting. The attraction is going strong. You probably don’t have kids yet to be concerned with. You have more free time when you are alone at home together.

However as the newness wears off and you move into the new stage of your life, the sex no longer is necessarily romantic. Sometimes it can be a chore. Something you do just because it is expected or looked at as the only means of romance. That takes away the fun of it and definitely makes it so it is not romantic. But when that occurs, there are different types of romantic things that you can do to keep the romance alive.

Obvious things that come to mind are things like dinner dates, movies, or even flowers and candy. But there are other things that can be romantic gestures which mean just as much. Just doing something that shows you are thinking of your loved one. For example, when my wife empties the coffee pot and gets it ready for me the next morning. When I go to set it at night and see it is already done I know she was thinking of me and wanting to do something nice for me. Or simply taking time to say a kind word about what a great job they are doing at something. Sometimes a simple look and sincere smile can show that romantic feeling. Or be proactive and look at their calendar and see if they are going to have a busy day the next day and take it upon yourself to try and help lessen the load by doing something for them that will help them out.

My wife and I work opposite shifts for childcare reasons so we don’t often get to spend a lot of time together. That can add an extra roadblock to romance. But there are still opportunities. We meet after I get off and before she starts work and have dinner together in the break room. We take advantage of technology and exchange sweet messages via text. We will post sweet messages and posts on each others Facebook walls. And we make sure to take the time to call each other on each break and lunch through out the work day just to check in and see how the day is going. And of course take the opportunity to say how much we love each other.

Regardless of the situation you find yourself in or the stage of life you are in, there is always an opportunity for a romantic gesture. It doesn’t always have to be a four star restaurant meal or an elaborate planned out scenario. Sometimes the gestures that mean the most are the smallest ones, simply because they come from the heart.

How do you keep romance alive in your relationship?


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2 Responses to Making Romance Last

  1. Sandi Ormsby says:

    My brother-in-law had to do the opposite shift thing for child care. It was difficult for them. My husband and I need to take more time together…I’ve got to change some things as we aren’t romantic enough…those darn kids make us so tired. 🙂

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