Helplessness: that dull, sick feeling of not being the one at the reins. When did you last feel like that –- and what did you do about it – Daily Prompt
My wife suffers from pretty bad headaches from time to time. When she gets really bad migraines she suffers so bad that the pain puts her near tears at times. She can’t function and has to just go to bed.When she gets them really bad nothing will help. Everything everyone has suggested she has tried. Some headaches are just so bad nothing helps.
At times she asks me to help her get rid of the pain. I don’t think she really thinks I can help her when nothing she had been provided medically can. But she is just in so much pain and so much suffering that I want to help her. When I can not, I end up feeling helpless and frustrated with the situation.
I wish I could just take the pain from her but I can’t. I understand that. It doesn’t make me feel any better about the situation. I’m supposed to be able to solve all the problems and make sure she experiences nothing but happiness. However all I can do in those situations is to take care of my daughter and try to make it so my wife can rest as comfortable as possible. And of course be very understanding that when she is grumpy towards me and wants to bite my head off it’s not really her, it’s the migraine.
I am just glad her headache does not get to that level often, both for her sake and mine!